It may not be physical, but verbal abuse is just as worse: we tend to make that partner feel small because we are hurting. Once someone has been hurt by the person they love, it's hard to trust again, so bringing all those insecurities into a new relationship is like building a house and then tearing it down only to build the same house. To rebuild trust, you must first take responsibility for all your mistakes, never make excuses or scapegoat your partner. Can you really be intimate with someone you love when you don't have trust? Trust is like a car without tires, you can sit in the car all day, but it won't go anywhere. An intimate relationship isn't just about love, feelings, or sex, it's about commitment. Partners must be accountable to that commitment, regardless of the temptations they may face. It doesn't matter if you are married or not, when you decide to have a relationship you must act with respect and devotion. Invest time in your relationship, go on dates whether it's to the movies or just a walk on the beach, it shows that you are committed to spending time together. Commitment makes your partner feel safe, especially when times get tough they have that security