In 2015, 37% of people surveyed reported that their New Year's resolution was to stay fit and healthy. Other top choices included: lose weight, travel more and spend more time with family and friends (“Best New Year's resolutions this year?”). With the start of a new year and the task of finding a goal to achieve by the end of the semester, I started thinking about the things I wanted to change in my life. I was already fit and healthy, I'm a poor college student so traveling more is pretty much out of the idea and I decided to spend an adequate amount of time with my family and friends. I started thinking long and hard about what people told me about myself and if anything stood out. Over the past few months, I've remembered my mother telling me I should work on being more "warm and fuzzy" after a visit with my grandmother. Alongside this, some of my friends recently said that if they could describe me in two words they would be “passionately angry”. I never realized this until others pointed it out to me, but I can definitely understand what they're talking about. This realization led me to formulate a goal to no longer be warm and fuzzy or less angry, but more open and aware of how others feel. Say no to plagiarism. Get a tailor-made essay on "Why Violent Video Games Shouldn't Be Banned"? Get an Original Essay Three years ago, my parents told me they were getting a divorce. I'm only going to mention this because I firmly believe that to solve a problem you have to find the root of it and I truly believe that's where a lot of my anger comes from. You hear about divorce from other kids in school as you grow up, and you might even see it on a TV show or movie. But you can't imagine what it's like to face it until it happens to you. I don't really remember starting to feel angry or being upset about anything in particular, it just happened because I didn't know how else to feel. “Studies conducted in the early 1980s showed that children who were victims of repeated divorces earned lower grades and their peers rated them as less pleasant to be around (“Eighteen Shocking Children and Divorce Statistics”).” I mean, how would you feel if your lives changed forever? I started to feel angry towards my mother because my father told me he had nothing to do with it. I knew my life would never be the same based on everything I had seen and heard about divorce. I knew my mother was leaving and that I would have to constantly go back and forth to see them. I knew that my brother would most likely go with her and I would see him less. The thought that family traditions would never be the same again could not provoke any emotion other than anger. In the years to come, my anger grew even more when my mother remarried a man with three children and started a life about forty minutes from where I grew up. The feeling of having to go back and forth to see both my parents is enough to drive me crazy one day. Many times I take this anger out on the people around me and on myself. When my mother told me I needed to be more “warm and fuzzy,” I know exactly what she was talking about. When I see other people with their parents or grandparents, they can't wait to give them the biggest hug and answer in detail every question they ask. For me, I'm more known for acting like I just saw my parents yesterday when they come to pick me upschool and answer their questions with mumbling and noises. On this particular visit with my grandmother, she wanted to see me after I returned to school at the end of Thanksgiving break. When I walked in she was excited to know everything she had missed while I was at school and what I had done while I was at home. I was in a hurry to leave and without realizing it, I wasn't thinking at all about how he felt but rather about the fact that I didn't want to be there. I don't remember getting angry specifically, but a lot of times I feel like I do it without realizing it because I feel that way more often than not. What I understand now as I work towards my goal is that I should think about how it feels. He loves me as his grandson more than anything in the world and cares so much about how I am. It wouldn't kill me to smile and tell her all about how I'm doing for just a few minutes and I bet if I accepted her huge hug before I left, she'd give her all week. When I get upset because I have to go to my mom's house to see her because I know it's the right thing to do, I have to think about how she feels. He has started his new life, but obviously still cares about me and wants to see me. She is struggling to try to balance her life with her new husband and children and is doing her best to make sure that I am a part of it and that I am happy about it too. Sometimes it seems like all she cares about is making sure she gets what she wants, but I have to remind myself that she's doing it for my happiness too, even if it doesn't seem like it's making me happy. After all, she's still my mother and has done so much for me, so the least I can do is show up happy and willing to talk to her and see her. Even though I don't think about it as much because dads aren't known for being as affectionate as your mom, he still wants to see me too. I know sometimes I feel angry that he's at his girlfriend's house and I'm at my house alone. But he's just trying to balance his new life and I can make it a lot easier by being willing and excited to spend time with him. Trying to suppress my anger and show more love won't be easy, but I know that thinking about how important it will be to my family will help me. As for my “passionate anger,” I think it comes from the fact that I get easily angry about things that happen in the everyday world. You could say I have some discomfort. To list just a few, it could be people walking too slowly in front of me, design flaws (e.g. why would they set up the building this way? It would be so much easier if the doors were here), a lack of planning in advance, having to wait for people who are late, and meetings taking longer than necessary. I could go on. “When our environment causes stress and frustration, we feel angry, just as we feel angry with people who cause us stress and frustration. People are not always the trigger, unless they are drivers on clogged highways contributing to road rage (Eldridge).” Pilots are another thing that definitely makes me angry. Some days are worse than others where I feel angry about everything happening around me. As part of my goal, I want to remember that whatever happens isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things. I know that sooner or later I will be able to get around the slow ones, that at least I still walk around the building, sooner or later the latecomers will arrive, the meeting will end and I will be able to beat the traffic. I know that if I focus on the outcome rather than what's making me angry in the moment I will be much happier overall. Please note: this is just an example. Get a custom paper from our expert writers now. Get a custom essay for.